Los Angeles Fine Art Project : Aspen
There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life - John Lennon
I think a lot about our relationship with ourselves and with other people. What reasons brought you together, friend or lover, and is your relationship balanced and healthy? When the answer is no, most of the time I find it's because of fear.
We are afraid people won't like us, so we pretend to be what we think they will like. We are afraid we will get hurt, so we lash out and are defensive. We are afraid to be alone or hurt someone's feelings, so we force an unnatural relationship. We are afraid we will end up like the relationships we had as examples, so we stay alone or choose people for the wrong reasons. We are afraid to give love because it might not be returned. We are afraid to accept love because we don't feel we deserve it, and this leads to a self-destructive path full of people who give up their lives trying to save you, or who will treat you the way you think you deserve.
I've experienced a bit of everything above, from both sides, and though painful it helped shape my life the way it is today. I choose to not be afraid, and it brings a tremendous amount of joy and happiness to my life. Face your fears and see what happens. Work on it a little each day. Think about the reasons behind your fear and work through them. Nothing good will come from this fear, it will only hold you back.